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Characteristics of Domestic Violence

Characteristics of Domestic Violence

Characteristics of Domestic Violence – bad behavior committed by a person towards their partner, in which the perpetrator commits violence in the form of physical, sexual, and use of words and / or sentences that are not polite.

Although it can be experienced by anyone, usually the violence victims of  are women and can occur in all levels of society.

What about domestic violence cases in Indonesia? According to a report entitled “Domestic Violence During the Pandemic COVID-19” published in the Research Center
In December 2020, the DPR RI Expertise Agency, there were 11,105 cases of domestic violence reported during 2019. Furthermore, the number of reported cases of domestic violence has increased since the enactment of Large-Scale Social Restrictions (PSBB) during the COVID-19 pandemic.

To get to know more about domestic violence, consider the following discussion, including the characteristics of you being a victim and how to get help. It should be noted, domestic violence does not only occur as a husband and wife relationship, but can also be experienced by someone who is in an affair or a relationship in the family.

1. Characteristics of actors

Before discussing the characteristics of a person who has been a victim of domestic violence, there is nothing wrong with knowing the general characteristics of the perpetrator. According to information from the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV), perpetrators of domestic violence have the following behaviors:

Likes to deny and belittle violent behavior committed against victims
Regarding the victim as property or possessions, not as a spouse or family member
Has low self-esteem and feels inadequate, even though he looks authoritative in front of many people
Tend to blame other people or other things for their bad behavior. For example, by saying that violence is the result of alcoholic drinking, or stress that causes him to commit domestic violence
Looks good in front of a lot of people, but behaves differently at home. There are also those who can show good or affectionate behavior towards their partner for a certain period of time before committing violence again. This change in behavior is like a cycle

2. Signs of having experienced domestic violence

Launching the Mayo Clinic, someone who is a victim of domestic violence will experience things like this:

Often threatened with using force, including with weapons
Often experiences physical violence such as being slapped, kicked, choked, and so on
The perpetrator arranged all the activities of the victim, such as going with whom, what clothes to wear, including wanting to know and trying to regulate the types of drugs the victim consumed.
The perpetrator limits and / or regulates the victim’s finances with the aim of limiting activities and movements
Victims are often insulted by the use of harsh and hurtful words
Victims are often accused of having an affair because the perpetrator feels jealous
The perpetrator prohibited and / or prevented the victim from working, studying, meeting with friends, even parents
The perpetrator forced the victim to have sexual intercourse against the will of the victim
Victims are often blamed for all the abusive acts of the perpetrator
Perpetrators often tell victims that they deserve harsh treatment

3. Emergency numbers and contacts for assistance

Contact Komnas Perempuan number: 021-3903963
Contact the WhatsApp number of the Indonesian Child Protection Commission (KPAI): 0811-177-2273
Fill out an online complaint on the official KPAI page: https://www.kpai.go.id/ complaint- form or open the www.kpai.go.id page then click the “online complaint” button
Call the emergency number: 119 ext. 8
Number of the Ministry of Women’s Empowerment and Child Protection (Kemen PPPA): 0821-2575-1234 or 0811-1922-911
The Legal Aid Institute for the Indonesian Women’s Association for Justice (LBH APIK) has branch offices in almost all parts of Indonesia. Open the https://lbhapik.or.id page then search for “profile” then select “member” and select the city of domicile

Open the https://dp3a.semarangkota.go.id/penguhan page then fill out the complaint form. Or call: 024-76402252

For those who live in Bandung and Bogor:

Jari Foundation on Jalan Sukajadi 149, Bandung. Hotline: 085-6216-1430
Emergency service 112 for the city of Bogor

For those who live in East Java:

Women Crisis Center (WCC) Jombang. Number: 0812-350-2062

For those who live in Bali:

Ministry of Law and Human Rights of the Republic of Indonesia, Regional Office of Bali. WhatsApp number: 0811-381-1181 or 0361-224856

For those who live in North Sulawesi:

P2TP2A complaint hotline: 0431-8802030, 0812-4344-1300, 0812-4402-2005, 0812-4402-2004

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4. Have a plan to save yourself and your child

Victims of domestic violence can take these steps to protect themselves and their children (if any) from the perpetrator.

Prepare a bag containing clothes, important documents such as ID cards, bank books, diplomas, and medicines, then store the bag in a safe place, if necessary at the house of other family members

Always keep the telephone numbers of agencies, family members, religious leaders, neighbors, or religious institutions that you know well and can be contacted at any time
Avoid contact with people the perpetrator also knows
Get to know your neighbors or know a neighbor’s phone number that you trust well and understand your situation, so that if needed you can go to their house to ask for protection
If the situation at home is not good, for example the perpetrator is in an emotional state, avoid areas with lots of dangerous objects such as kitchens, warehouses, closed places where there are no doors and windows. As much as possible be in a place where, if in a precarious situation, you can get out of the house
If you have children at home, teach them how to call emergency numbers and important information such as full addresses and names of people to contact
Cash is always available, so whenever needed, you can use a taxi, buy phone credit, and so on
Always carry a cell phone with you, so you can immediately call the emergency number if the perpetrator commits violence. Make sure your cellphone always has credit and data packages, so you can contact the police, doctors, friends, or parents
Prepare several strategies that you can do to protect yourself and your children
Understand and study home situations, such as door locks, alarm buttons, and so on so that if needed, you and / or your child can immediately get out of the house

5. Things that need to be done when victims of domestic violence ask for help

Apabila kalian memiliki teman atau saudara yang mengalami KDRT, lakukan beberapa hal seperti berikut:

  • Mendengarkan segala keluh kesah korban tanpa menyalahkan atau menggurui
  • Percaya bahwa segala sesuatu yang diucapkan oleh korban kepadamu adalah benar
  • Luangkan waktu apabila korban KDRT menghubungi atau meminta bantuan
  • Make a complaint or ask further questions if you see the victim has bruises on the body, likes to be alone, often comes to school or work late, and has thoughts of suicide. If this situation occurs in children, we can follow the protocol from the school regarding suspected domestic violence
    There are also victims of domestic violence who do not realize that they have experienced domestic violence, and for this you can tell that violence in the form of physical or verbal is not a good thing. Tell the victim, using neutral sentences without sounding patronizing, that salvation is the first thing
    Assisting victims by finding information or special institutions that can handle cases of domestic violenceThat is important information about domestic violence (KDRT). For your information, sometimes victims are afraid to let go or leave the perpetrator because they are still in love or affection, think maybe the perpetrator can change, they are afraid to live alone, have financial limitations, have children, and pressure from their families. Therefore, we can help by reassuring the victim that we really fear for her safety.